Ashok

Parents........

Hey guys out there, nowadays parents are very funny in their characters and actions especially towards their children. When children do something wrong, parents who love them will try to correct them in various ways. Some will just tell them nicely like an advice, some will scold them harshly and ask them not to repeat it again, and some may punish them. These ways of correcting children have to be chosen correctly to be used according to the child's age, the offense commited, the time, the situation, and also the sex of the child.

               If a kid of 5 or 6 fights with another kid, then u should slap him and scold him. If a school boy aged 12 or 13 fails his exams, you can cane him to a certain extent. If a secondary school girl at the age of 17 fails her exams, you shouldn't cane her or even slap her but instead, you should just scold her or advice her. A girl after the age of 14 or so shouldn't be caned at any circumstances at all. Most girls are so fragile and weak, they are weak mentally and physically as well. their heart is as fragile as the bones in their body. They are usually small sized and can easily be abused by any guy, even their own father for that matter.

               Some typical parents get so mad over their children, especially daughters who get themselves involved in a relationship before the age of marriage, and they will go all out to stop the relationship. Some mad parents even think of slaughtering their own daughter because they can't stop their  daughter's relationship. In some Tamil movies you can see the drama that will happen when a girl's parents get to know about her relationship before marriage, which looks really dramatic and artificial but that is the actual situation in most parts of India, even in rich and well educated families. This is because of the everlasting culture built so strongly in them, that a girl cannot have any relationship before marriage. This doesn't apply to people who go abroad to study, who gets his mind opened to many different types of cultures and people.

             A teenager at the age of 18 or younger will have the feeling of love for another person, usually of the opposite sex but sometimes it's of the same sex. We have homosexual, bisexual and straight people, but that is out of the point. You can't stop love from coming to yourself. Love just needs a second to come, without anyone realizing it because the hormones in our body at a certain age are such. If a person lives life without falling in love with anyone other than their parents, then he or she is not human. Therefore, parents should understand their children's feelings because even they have passed through their teenage years and surely have fallen in love with others. Some parents try to stop their children's relationship maybe because of the bad experience they have gone through in love and don't want their children to go through the same depression, which may lead to bad results in exams, failing in their career, and maybe even trying to commit suicide. All of this is true because the hearts of young people are very fresh and unexperienced, and it may not be able to take the amount of depression after breaking up with a person they really love.

             Parents' aim should not be to stop pain and depression to their children's hearts because their children need to get exposed to a lot of things and they should get enough experience in life before becoming an adult so that they can go through this world of good and evil for the rest of their lives without their parents. The experience gained in their younger days will help them to be strong and independent during hard and lonely times. A person who never went through love in their younger days, but straight away marries another person at the age of 26 will not be able to take it if their spouse suddenly leaves them or throws them out of their lives. This person will then have to go back to their parents house, not knowing what else to do, but what if her parents are dead and no other brothers or sisters left in this world? What will he or she do? She will be manipulated by many bad people out there. There's a very low chance of this person getting a good person for help at such a time. This situation becomes worse when the unlucky person here is a girl. She most probably will be raped and sent to a prostitution centre. Yes, you can earn a living that way but do you like it? Maybe you will enjoy the first few years of sex but not after 4 or 5 years because you will have to have sex so many times per day with so many different types of people. Even in a marriage, sex satisfaction with your spouse is only for 4 to 5 years, the rest of your life has to be love that keeps you together and happy. It's true that a young person may have the longing for sex so much so that it's more than his love for someone but it's not everlasting satisfaction, unlike love. Love can be forever, even after death. For example, children will still love their parents even after they are gone to the astral world, and a man will still love his wife even after she dies. Sex is ofcourse nice and can be done in numerous ways. There are so many styles and techniques in having sex to increase the pleasure and excitement of it. Young people are so into sex that they have even come up with names of different positions of sex such as doggy style, 6-9, and so on. Of course sex is good for health and a married couple should indulge themselves into a sexual intercourse atleast twice a week for a good bond in their relationship and good health too. The hormones in our human body have to work once in a while to keep us healthy at all times, which is helped by having sex.

               Okay guys, that's beyond my point, let's come back to the main point. Parents should encourage children's relationship after the age of 17 or so and try to help them in ways possible or just let them work things out themselves until it gets too complicated and out of control. Sex is good but sex before marriage is wrong. Marriage is the license for sex. Everyone should be a virgin before marriage, including guys. Parents should come in when their child breaks up with his or her lover and is under real depression. Parents should give them the reasons to live life after that relationship, they should explain to them that this relationship is not their whole life and it's just an experience they have to go through in life. That is a good parent. So parents, please change. You don't have to beat up your 18 year old daughter just because they are in a relationship with a guy, or locke her up in a room all day long, or even send them out of their house. This is just madness. Just leave your children alone and let them live the life they lead and gain enough experience for a bright future.            

Baby, I'll wait for you

Love has no boundaries, it has no limits, and nothing is impossible in love. If you really want something and you give out all the effort you have from your body and soul, then you will get what you want. Wanting something so badly will make you work really hard for it, but that doesn't mean that god won't give you any sufferings at all before reaching your goal. God will test you in so many ways in various forms to see your determination power. All you have to do is to keep focus of your goal and go through the pain. Always think that the pain is nothing compared to the enjoyment you are going to get after achieving your goal.

              If you want to become rich in life at about the age of 35 or so, then you have to go through the steps which are studying and doing well in exams, getting a good university, getting a good job, and keep on upgrading yourself to further increase your post and at the same time, your pay. Every goal in life has their own steps to fulfill. Your aim in life can be as big as creating a human brain or it can be as small as getting a new pen for yourself, but always remember that no matter how small or how big an aim is, you still have to work for it. No pain no gain. They always say that you shouldn't aim for something very high which is not likely to happen in your situation but trust me, it's good to aim high. Aim for whatever you want but make sure it's something good and it doesn't disturb anyone's life in the process of reaching your aim.

              If you have a girl friend and want to be with her all your life, then let it be. Work really hard to keep her according to your situation. Normal problems that will occur in a relationship is the disagreement of both side's parents, loss of interest in the girl or the guy, and so on. Parents can be convinced sooner or later but the big problem is the loss of interest in the couple itself.

                If a person goes off to another country far away to study for 3 to 4 years, will his or her lover lose interest in them? Will you leave your girl or guy, who goes to a foreign country to study? Will you leave your lover just because you don't have anyone to hug or kiss everyday? Will you leave your lover just because he can't be there and take care of you all the while? I don't know about you but I wouldn't leave the girl I love just because of the distance. The distance doesn't matter, love is too strong to be broken by these small matters unless you don't really love each other and you just want to play around. You just have to have faith in your lover and just keep on thinking that she or he is your life and you will find that the distance and time cannot fade both of your love for each other away.

             You don't have to be with your lover until you get married just to make sure that he or she won't run away from you. If one person goes overseas for a few years leaving the lover behind, they both will miss each other like anything and therefore, the love in them will grow stronger. When they get back together after a few years, they will find that a really strong love bond has been made between them and they will never leave each other for any reason at all in the future. Many articles say that divorce has a higher chance of happening in love marriages compared to arranged marriages. This is true because people demand for love every moment and if they don’t get it from their lover, they will break up the relationship and find for a new person. I find this stupid because love is about sacrificing everything for your lover including personal needs at times. Of course everyone would like to hug the person they love every single moment but sometimes you have to get back to reality and adjust to the situations you are in.

                    If you be with your lover every single moment in your life, you will get bored of her and try to avoid her but if you depart at times for certain activities or studies, you will want to be with your lover even more. The interest will be there for long in this way. So, if you are supposed to go somewhere for a few years leaving your lover behind, you should go and not say that you can’t live without your lover even for a day and all. You will feel heart broken for a while after departing with your loved ones but you will and have to get used to it because this is life. There has to ups and downs in life. So if your lover is going to study overseas for a few years, what will you tell her? I’ll definitely say “Baby, I will wait for you.”       

Pros and Cons......Everything is nice

                Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, uncles and aunties, fathers and mothers, handsome, beautiful and  ugly people, old and young, fat and thin, smart and stupid, basicly every single human in this world, a very warm welcome to my blog.

                In every single thing in this world, they have their pros and cons but sometimes even the cons about something makes it nice and interesting. Some people take the cons as a challenge and try to win over it. Nothing is easy in life, everything has it's difficulties.

                When you go to a showroom to buy a car, u have to choose between economical petrol consumption, sporty looks, good performance, and luxury. No car has every single thing. If you are a youngster and want a sports car with good performance, maybe you get a Lamborghini Gallardo, which has good looks and good performance but not that much of luxury and a very bad petrol consumption. If you want a cheap car with good petrol consumption, like a Nissan Sentra, then you won't have the sporty looks, luxury and performance. Do you people get it? Nothing in this world has everything that we want, nothing is perfect.

                 The same goes to humans, none of us, humans, are perfect. So, even when you get a girl, you don't have to hunt for the best girl because not all pros and cons can be seen from the outside of a person. So just accept whoever you get and adjust to it. Trust me, it's more fun this way, where you have to find out every bad part of the girl or guy and adjust to them. We can even try changing them.Love does everything, nothing is impossible in love.

                    When you get a girl, who looks pretty, innocent and lovable, but you don't know her character and personality in the whole yet but you decide to carry on. So what happens if she can't come out with you very often but she wants to be with you, she wants you to the maximum but her parents are against the relationship, she wants to do everything for you but she just can't because she is jailed up in her house, would you give her up? Or would you continue loving her and strive to the maximum to get her? Will you give a chance to love? Love is very powerful my friends. It can do wonders and create miracles.

                     People often get scared or fed up and give up their love for just a small problem between them. This is not called love, this is called playing with girls, you just want to enjoy the romance and get whatever attention you want from your lover but you do not wish to share your life with her. Love is about caring and sharing. Not in the material world but mentally. When a question is thrown to you, "Do you love anyone?", it means whether you care for someone, share your life with that person and want to narrate the rest of your life chapters with that person or not.

                       If a girl doesn't go out with the boyfriend that often, they both will miss each other like hell and make the love grow so strong for later enjoymentand love guarantee from themselves. If your lover's parents object your relationship, this is the chance for you to show your talents to them and prove yourself elligible to take their daughter or son with them to be your life partners. You must satisfy them so that they themselves will give you their daughter or son. Winning your lover's parents' heart is quite hard but this is the interesting part, it's a challenge for you. Tke the challenge whole heartedly, put all your effort into it and you will get what you want.

                         If a girl resist you so much from romancing with her, you should respect her decision and follow it until she herself brings you to her and gives you the green light to do whatever you want. Maybe she is just not ready for all this and she is scared if you people do the things which are supposed to be done only after marriage. She is right actually, so just follow it and you won't regret anything later. One more thing about this is that if you have done everything in the world with your lover before marriage, what is the excitement after marriage? You will feel bored to have sex with the same girl and you will proceed to many other hot chicks, which is called lust and not love. So, why not stay in curiosity until you get married and have the license to do whatever in the world you want to the girl you love.

                So, live life interestingly, be adventurous, take the challenges in life. Live the life that you earned by yourself, an honest living. Trust me, you will enjoy life that way better. As they always say, "no pain no gain" and also "suffer now, enjoy later". So people, love you girl truly and sincerely, and give up everything for her. You both have to live life with care and share. 

      

Changing Car

I've been using a Mini Clubman for quite some time now but recently, about a week ago or so, I've bought a second-hand Nissan Sunny. Ofcourse it's not the choice for most youngsters but this car is in a very good condition since it was handled by one owner only before this and it's accident free. The engine is in a good condition. Father paid for the car but he strictly said that if I want to do any modification to the car, I have to use my money only, he won't spend a single cent for it. When I got the car, I straight away lowered the car, tinted the car and changed the steering wheel. This is all minor things, there's a lot more to be done. I've planned to spend about 2k on my sound system, 2k for a metallic silver paint, 1k on a set of 15 inch rims, and 1k on the spoiler and skirtings. I plan to do it slowly since there are some financial problems. I have plans to change the engine to a feul injection engine also but that will be after all the other modifications. This car is nice to speed with but I'll be missing my Mini Clubman since it used to be the hottest car on the road. My dad is going to sell that car soon.I'll be missing that car later on but I'll be enjoying the speed of my new car. I had many plans earlier but to think of them, it doesn't make sense and it's sort of exaguration. I wanted to put in a Nissan Skyline engine into the Nissan Sunny together with a NOS feul tank but i later realized that the car might not stand the over load of power from the Skyline engine. I learnt that we should do things in moderation. I also wanted to put in a 15 inch, double box speakers in my car and also the speakers which can automatically open when switched on, which is 3k for one damn speaker. I can't do all this now because I of insufficient money but later when I have a proper job with a good income, I'll do all this stupid things and much more. We have to try new things to learn more, no pain, no gain.   

working experience

It's been almost 2 months since i started working in a car workshop as a foreman and i must say that I've learnt quite a bit eventhough i don't really like it due to it's environment. The smell of the black oil itself will kill u for even a few minutes only, so just imagine working there for about 5 to 6 hours a day .

Anyway, there are three of us working there, the owner, another guy who's one year younger than me, and me. So one day they both went out to fix a car which was stuck on the road not near the workshop and I was asked to take care of the shop if incase anyone were to come during their absence. That was the first time I was left alone there. Unfortunately, just after they left, a customer came and he asked me to change the engine oil and the oil filter. He was repeating what he wanted as I put on a blure look. Then he gave me the new engine oil and oil filter, and went to the shop nearby to have a drink. I immediately started work on his car. I have only seen them doing it but never have i done it before eventhough it's the easiest of all. I jacked up the car, went under the car from the left side and I saw only one miserable nut there, so common sense told me that that should be the nut i have to take out. So i tried so many spaners to open it and finally the tenth one did it. I collected the old oil into a container exactly like how the other worker does it, and before I could do anything else the man came back after his drink to see whether or not his car was in one piece. He straight away asked me what I did to his car, he looked quite worried. I said that I've taken out the old oil but haven't taken out the oil filter yet. He saw me struggling to take out the oil filter with my bare hands. He told me very sarcastically that nobody in the world can take out an oil filter without any tools, so he was trying to explain the correct tool to be used and i showed him various types of tools but i didn't get the right one until my boss and the other worker came back. They got a shock when they heard that I've taken out the old engine oil because they've never taught me how to do it. My boss put a little bit of new oil after taking out the oil filter. He checked the oil meter which showed more than  the maximum point. He got a shock and asked the other worker to take out the nut again and amazingly not even a drop of oil comes out. I was sort of happy thinking that we have discovered something new that day and we could make a new theory about cars but my imagination stopped when the other guy came out from under the car, he couldn't stop laughing. He finally said that I took out the gear oil instead of the engine oil. Everyone including me started laughing.

They then told me that I have to go under the car from the front to see the nut. I was lucky that nor the customer,  neither my boss was angry with me. It was the joke of the year and they always tease me with that stupid incident of mine until today. Anyway, it was a good experience. I learnt where the gear oil is and where the engine oil is. Hope I learn more things like that in future, well, not exactly like that. 

Working Life

              I thought the worst thing my dad could do is to imprison me in such a small college but i was wrong, that was just the warming up for my punishment. My dad didn't like to see me simply loafing around town with my Mini Minor car in the evenings as my college is only in the mornings everyday. He wanted me to work so that I won't waste my time just like that and he knew that I won't follow what he says, so he strictly said that he'll sell of my car if I don't go to work, and without a car, I'll die. It doesn't matter how uncomfortable my car is or how low the top speed is, it still can take me wherever I want to go but ofcourse only in Ipoh.

                 So my dad was still looking for a job. I too was looking for a job, knowing that I wouldn't like my dad's choice. I found a job in Royal Ipoh Club, dad straight away said no. He sent me to his friend saying that its an air-cond company. Sure enough, he owns an air-cond company but he pushed me to his friend's car workshop where they overhaul car engines and service cars. My dad thought that I was working for an air-cond company and went off to K.L. for some meetings and only came back after 2 weeks. Only after that he knew that I was working in a workshop.

                Work is ofcourse tough in a workshop and they keep on laughing at me in whatever I do. I get humiliation every single day of work without fail. Its been a month since i started this job. The good thing about this job is that i can skip work without my parent's knowledge. My dad doesn't have this guy's number. I even took leave today saying that I have extra class. They have no other choice than to believe me. I know I'm bad. Work is exhausting and killing at times. I think this is enough of masala for now in my life.   

Maxwell College

             Hey guys......I'm back into blog-writing after so long......

Well, I was studying in Inti College Nilai until December last year. Knowing that my first and second semester marks won't be counted in my final A-Levels examination, I screwed up my semester 1 and 2 exams without thinking of my parents. They were so damn angry with me after my second semester exam marks were sent to the house. My dad didn't talk to me for one month after scolding me nicely. I was speechless as I knew it was my fault.

          Dad asked me what I wanted to do next. Ofcourse I had to wait for a whole month to hear his voice towards me again. I wanted to do engineering in Inti itself but then my dad pulled me back to a small college near my house named Maxwell College. I'm stuck here for three bladey years now. I'm not worried that its small, I'm just worried that there are no girls in this college as its an engineering college.

           Anyway, life has to be interesting. Going through one university only to finish up my degree is quite sucky, so I've added some spices into my life. Hope for more spicy masala in my life.

Physics

Hey guys, just wanted to share something about physics with all of you. Physics is actually a subject which can be tough and can be easy, in the sense that if you understand the concepts in every topic, you are safe but if you don't understand the concepts, no matter how hard you study, you won't be able to do well. So guys, just understand the concepts well, if you have doubts about any one part of this subject, ask the smarter ones or ask your lecturers, which is more advisable. It's no use reading and reading the physics book because you can't understand physics just by reading, and when you have already understood a concept, you have to do a lot of exercises using that concept you just understood so that it remains in your brains for a long long time.

     So guys, you have to be hardworking in the beginning so that you don't have to struggle later, nearing the final examination. Well, I'm talking like this but I have not done this myself. I plan to do it soon but only god knows when I will really do it.

    This is for all guys, if you don't like a certain subject or a topic, it is the same as you are uninterested in a girl. You have to find the good points of the girl to start liking her. As an example, beauty is not the only thing in a girl that attracts a guy. There are many other characteristics of a girl that can pull you to her, such as, her attitude, her kindness, her gentleness, and most of all her heart. Any girl will surely have atleast one of this characters. If you go for beauty only, it's like going for the subjects that seem easy at the beginning itself and overlooking the subjects that may seem hard at the beginning but which can be easier later on. So guys, learn how to look for the good qualities of a girl and also learn how to be interested in a subject which you hate.   

Fucked up Education in Malaysia

    Hello again, I'm back with another episode of "my blog". Education in Malaysia is really fucked up. We, who only depend on studies by the government are really fucked up and are in deep shit. I really hope that I am form 4 now, doing everything in English. I missed the English batch. Since I learned every fucking thing in Malay, I lost my touch of English now, and what a time it is to realize, I'm currently doing the A-Levels programme in Inti College, Nilai, and my English is fucking bad. All the terms in chemistry, physics, and even math are so different than what I learned in secondary school last time. Some of my friends can't even speak English well, how the fuck are they supposed to get all As for their A-Levels? I hope that the batch in form 4 now and the later batches get good English education and do not suffer when they get to my course or whatever they want to do because Malay can't take you anywhere, its English that will bring you up. Fucking Malaysia reallized it too fucking late.   

SICK I AM ! ! !

      Hey guys, last tuesday, which was the 23rd of May, I had a very bad sore throat and influenza, the same night I had high fever, so I took 2 panadols and went to sleep. The next morning when I awoke, I then realised that I had a severe asthma attack together with all the other diseases. So, my room mate, being very kind took me to the college office and they then took me to some clinic nearby.

      The doctor checked me up and he put me on the nabulizer to bring down my asthma attack, which worked only for the time being. He prescribed a kilogramme of medicines for my sore throat, fever, and all. The worst part is that he charged me 50 bucks for the miserable 2 or 3 minutes he spent on me but ofcourse plus the medicines as well.

       I have now finished half of that and I don't think I can finish the rest. I can't climb up the stairs to my room which is actually located on the top most floor, 4th floor. I have to climb up one floor, rest for a while, then only go to the next level, and I will be panting and wheezing once I've reached the top floor. It's miserable right?

      I think this thing will continue for at least a week or two more, believe me. I just want to get well soon and play futsal in the college and also continue my swimming here. Life's boring without sports. Until next time guys, chiouz.